Learning to love ourselves and feel confident in our skin is a long process. There’s no easy quick fix solution. There are, however, a few things that are proven to help you temporarily feel more confident.
1) TAKE UP MORE SPACE
If you use body language that takes up more space it demonstrates to others that you’re confident. This in turn can make you feel more confident yourself. Think about people who clasp their hands behind their head, elbows pointing outwards. It oozes confidence (maybe a bit too much!). For a more subtle approach think about standing with your legs firmly planted on the floor, slightly wider than hip width. Or sit back in your chair, not crossing your arms but leaving them open, perhaps resting them on the arm of your chair. Even better, it’s shown that using more confident body language can reduce stress levels – hooray!
2) STAND TALL
Have you ever thought about how you stand? So many of us curl up on ourselves and hunch over, like we want to roll up like a hedgehog, backs to the world! Try standing like your head’s attached to a string being pulled directly above you, and roll your shoulders back. This will automatically make you feel more stable, confident, and ready to take on whatever comes your way.
3) WEAR BRIGHT COLOURS
This might seem like the last thing you want to do when you’re feeling a bit self-conscious. Surely this will make you stand out more?! But there’s something about wearing bright colours that can make you start feeling as bold as your clothes colour. Try orange in particular, which is meant to make you feel more sociable.
Bear with me on this one. I know it sounds about hippyish and zen, but it really does work! If there’s a particular situation that you’re feeling nervous about, like maybe a job interview or a social situation, then imagine yourself doing it in your head. Imagine what you’re wearing, how you feel confident, how you greet people. By doing this you’re setting up those confident behaviours which you can copy when the actual event happens. It’ll also feel more familiar to you because you’ll already have pictured it in your mind.
Our body posture and facial expressions are not just reactions of our emotions, but a facial expression can also trigger an emotion. Smiling can actually make you feel happier and more relaxed. And to top that off other people think those of us who throw a smile are more successful and kinder individuals. So say cheese!
Living life when you have low confidence or are having a down day can be tough. And improving your overall self-confidence can be a long journey. However hopefully these 5 quick tips are enough to help give you a quick confidence boost when you need it.
What are your tips for feeling instantly more confident?